Why is Modesty Important?



Today I read Michelle Duggar’s explanation of why she dresses modestly, and although I became a Christ Follower at 5 years old, I really started thinking about modesty after college.  (Actually, FULL DISCLOSURE, I had REALLY started thinking about it in high school, but evaded God’s convictions in my heart so I could keep dressing the way I wanted).


I loved the way she explained her reasons for modesty because they are exactly my reasons also!! So please have a read and know that my heart is to please my Lord, not to judge someone else or act like I’m better than anyone. I just want to be obedient to the things God is telling me to do.


Michelle says:

“After I was born again and became a Christian, I really began to cover up. I felt like the Lord was saying to me, you know what, you probably shouldn’t be wearing that. It’s a little bit low cut, or a little bit too high, you know. I just really felt like I needed to obey what God was saying to me first and understand later. And then I saw in the scriptures a lot of things that helped me understand why I was feeling uncomfortable with my previous clothing choices. And I’m not saying this is for everyone because I realize different people are at different places and aren’t always going to have the same way of interpreting things.

Interestingly, Jim Bob and I had a conversation at that point and I said to him, I really feel like the Lord is impressing upon me that I should be modest in what I wear. And also, that I really should be defining who I am as a woman by choosing to wear dresses and skirts…We always tell our children, go to his word. It’s not about these rigid standards. I meet many different people along life’s way and I hear some people say they are so sick of rules and regulations, and they go on and on about how they were raised in a certain denomination. I’m hearing what they’re saying, but I don’t understand it because that’s not where I came from. It’s not drudgery; it really is a joy to see what God says about things and bring that into our lives.”


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It is possible to be modest in pants as well, just harder.





Happy reading!!


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First Momma Visit



Last week my first momma came to visit and we had a great time! This was only our third meeting (unless you count the few in high school during our first attempt at a relationship, before my mom broke us up). And this was our best visit yet!! She traveled down with a couple of friends and they made some others stops along the way.


We started with a trip to Foster’s for ice cream treats.




Then I took them to the beach and they LOVED it!!



With it being summer and hot, there were lots of people enjoying the ocean breezes crashing waves.



And, of course, surfers!







Us, and an example of modest pant wearing.



Loved these cute shoes on the young girl.



The (lovely) smokestacks.



And our lovely rock!




It means so much to me to have these special times together after 40 years of separation. We both still get nervous and we’re still getting to know each other, but we’re having fun doing it. :>


As a three year old missing her mother and trying to adjust to a new family, I never knew if we would ever be together again. And I know she felt the same way, so we’re so excited to finally have these times to bond as a mother and daughter.


**Technically, I didn’t Instagram all of these, but they were all taken with my phone. :>**



life rearranged

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My Modest Wedding Dress



Inspired by the Modest Mom’s modest wedding dress inspiration this week and the fact that it’s wedding season for most people, I thought I would share photos from my wedding and how I made it more modest. Thankfully, it wasn’t too bad to begin with.

And you’ll notice that my Sweetie’s “skirt” is shorter than mine. :>


I found my dress at a Vietnamese bridal shop just up the street from my apartment. Why is that so important you ask? Because I’m only 4’11”  tall (or short :>) and this dress was the PERFECT length!! One alteration I expected to face, but didn’t have to. Yay! It didn’t have a train and the v-neck wasn’t modest enough, so my mother-in-law offered to make a train and a modesty panel if we could find the right fabrics, which we did!! And she did!! ( We also found all of the other fabrics for dresses and ring bearer outfit). You would never know those two things were added to my dress. And with the extra fabric she also made me a little purse for tissues, lipstick touch ups, etc. She also made the made-of-honor dress for my now cousin-in-law and the adorable, old fashioned shorts outfit for our ring bearer. She was such a blessing!

Here’s my sister helping me get ready. You can see the modesty panel here.




Walking down the isle was such a joy! No more planning and seeing our family and friends there to love and support us.



Our first communion as husband and wife. See my beautiful train? I LOVE it!! It had hooks that attached to my dress, then could be removed for the reception and Irish ceili dancing. :>



The first person to call me Mrs. Ferrel was my husband’s aunt. Sweet words to my ears!!


Sometimes the groom needs his “skirt/train” fluffed too! Haha! :>


The sweetest little flower girl in the world! She is now 18 years old. How is that possible?! We had/have a special relationship, so our wonderful photographer and friend captured our love for each other here. Definitely a favorite of mine!!



Her dress went so well with mine, a great find! I completely forgot to wear my veil over my face so my groom could lift it to kiss me. I was sad.

I made my own veil and made it adaptable like the train.I took a plain, silk headband, glued flowers onto it and made the tulle veil part detachable so I could wear the headband alone. I still have it!!


My dear friends and sister! And the cutest little flower girl again!


Three out of four sisters plus two husbands.




A wedding in march, in Oregon means rain. But we have a chauffeur with an umbrella for the bride.




HAPPY new bride and groom!!




Time for some Irish ceili dancing!



This Irish kilt was a last minute addition to the wedding, once my Sweetie found out that for years I had wanted my groom to wear a kilt! I guess he loves if this introvert was willing to dress like this for me with all of these eyes on him!



The kids couldn’t wait for CAKE!!And my flower girl wanted to be right there with me the whole time. So sweet!




Our cake was a last minute disaster. The week before our wedding , the beloved Kienows Bakery called to say they were closing their business a few months earlier than planned. What? So I needed a new bakery, and fast. It’s only a cake. So I decided not to try to transport it the two hours out the location, but go with a local grocery store and save myself more headaches. I called, and she had JUST put the order in for the next week. Ack! Thankfully, she said she could call them right back, but couldn’t do anything fancy at this last minute. She DID say she’d try to add some shamrocks for us. :>

It’s just a cake, and everything worked out. It’s also just a wedding, the marriage is more important. You know what people have said to us the most, (besides comments about the kilt :>) that our wedding was very God-honoring. What a lovely compliment.



The adorable ring bearer outfit. His brothers told him he would have to marry the flower girl if he walked with her down the isle. Brothers are such torturers!



Off to the honeymoon amidst a birdseed shower!!




Such a happy, blessed day for us 15 years ago! So many struggles and so many joys. And our Lord has been with us every step of the way, guiding us in His ways.



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Book Review: “Until I found You” by Victoria Bylin



I’m back with another book review thanks to a complimentary copy from Bethany House in exchange for my honest review of the book, “Until I Found You” by Victoria Bylin.


Here’s the synopsis:


“Finding each other was only the beginning . . .

When Kate Darby swerves off a mountain road to avoid hitting a California condor, she ends up trapped in her car, teetering on the edge of a cliff. Terrified, she breathes a prayer that changes her life.

It’s Nick Sheridan who comes to Kate’s rescue. Nick is handsome and confident, and he seems to develop a habit of rescuing her, but Kate is in town only until her grandmother recuperates from a stroke. She isn’t planning to get involved with one of the locals.

Nick is a reformed veteran of life in the fast lane, a new Christian, and a travel writer. When he sees a car dangling on the edge of a cliff, the daredevil in him jumps into action. He doesn’t expect to be swept off his feet by the car’s occupant. He’s made a vow–no dating for a year–but keeping that vow is going to be a lot more difficult now that he’s met Kate Darby. . . .”


Here’s what I really liked about the book:

In this day and age, when careers and freedom are so valued over more important things, we see a realistic struggle with what is the best course to take. Big city vs. small town, helping family and friends vs. success in the world’s eyes, etc. The support of Nick’s Christian brother as Nick, a brand new Christian learns what it means to be a Christ Follower, is great! There is a real, honest progression of struggles and learning process as he figures it all out, what his life should look like now and how he can help Kate in the same way once she makes the same decision he has.


I live in California and have never heard anyone from here say “1-5”, which they use in the story. That’s what people like me say that are from Oregon, so I thought is was weird that they don’t call it “The 5” as everyone here does, (I like authenticity).


Anyone with a fascination for Condors will probably enjoy the story as there’s quite a bit about them here. I hadn’t heard a lot about them before this. :>


All in all, it’s a pretty good story! See for yourself!





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Modest Monday: Peasant Top and Peach Skirt





After getting all decked out in Patriotic colors for the fourth, I wore a very summery outfit for church. And there were actually a few other in summery colors instead of dark this week. Yay!!


It’s so comfy, cool and colorful and it was a fun outfit to wear!







I love perfectly matching jewelry too!




My Sweetie caught a couple of pretty good shots this week! (It helps if we’re getting along!) Can you say freckles?








Top from a thrift store, skirt from Bass Outlet

Jewelry? Kohl’s?


Have a colorful week!








Patriotic Fruit Pizza



The day before Independence Day, the company my Sweetie works for like to have a potluck. This year I made a Patriotic Fruit Pizza, as it’s easy, yummy and filled with flair, even if you don’t decorate it with a STAR!!  I knew I was going to be busy ALL day on Wednesday, yet this needs to be fresh, so I wanted something fairly fast and easy.  As usual though, I ran into issues while shopping for the quickest-to-assemble ingredients. I start with a sugar cookie crust, but they were out of the pouch mixes, so I used the refrigerated type. Not as yummy, but even faster.The cream cheese, icing sugar, lemon juice spread ingredients were easy enough to find, but no blueberries, so I had to make do with GIANT blackberries for the STAR. Yummier, but not as pretty. It’s hard to create designs with big berries. It worked well enough though. : >


My recipe is a bit of a modified version of this one.


My Patriotic Fruit Pizza


Refrigerated sugar cookies

1 package (8 oz) cream cheese, softened

1/4 cup powdered sugar

2 teaspoons grated lemon peel

2 cups fresh raspberries

2 cups fresh blackberries


**Heat oven to 350°F. Spray 12-inch pizza pan with cooking spray. Our oven is broken, so I flattened a foil pie pan in order to have a round pan that would fit into our toaster/convection oven. Flatten cookie dough pieces and  place in pan, pressing edges lightly together to form the crust.


Bake 15  minutes until cooked, but mot crunchy. Cool completely, about 25 minutes.


In medium bowl, beat cream cheese, powdered sugar and lemon lemon juice until fluffy. Spread over baked crust. Arrange  one color berries in large star shape in center. Arrange the other berries around star.  Serve immediately or store in refrigerator. Best served fresh.


Next time I make this STAR pizza I might take in the inside points a bit and take an aerial look and fix those raspberries at the bottom! : >


Enjoy and Happy Independence Day!!!





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